“(If we) face the fact, for it is a fact, that there is no arm to cling to, but that we go alone and that our relation is to the world of reality and not only to the world of men and women...” ― Virginia Woolf, A Room of One's Own
One of these days my Beloved asked me, ‘and how do you know you will have me for ever’? I was stunned! Stunned into silence and a deep understanding. I can’t own you, even if you are the best thing to have happened on the planet! Yes I can’t! I can’t!
I am not mourning a loss. Since it’s about having been blessed to have held a noble heart. I still feel like the ‘Chosen One’.. like I carry your goodness, like you left me better than you found me, like you truly blessed me! And so I love it!
But then again, nobody likes to be single! People think that in general one may be unlovable or something must be wrong with them to be single. And if you are Single and not ready to mingle too, watch out! you may be clubbed with the ‘Strange’ of our lovely Species!
It’s nothing wrong to be on a voyage of self-indulgence and discovery till you can hi-5! with a truly awesome partner than simply rush into it because of a particularly anxious case of FOMO! Fear Of Missing Out! Most people feel lonely, bored, and don’t know what to do next, so they start looking for someone to further clarify their directions in life. Or they may heave and sigh at all the other people getting hitched and they think that if they meet someone, then the next phase will mean something and add something to Life! The sweet little danger present in that lonely expectation is, they are relying on someone else to decide their fate.
But I believe, being Single is one of the most exciting adventures of Life! Think of a wave! A wave that you can ride at will. Choose your pace, and your direction and maybe the sea you want to take your surfboard too, Red sea/Blue Sea/Yellow Sea/Dream of Dream Seas?! Now come back to the ground! Enough floating in the air already!
Single is powerful! Single is opportunity! Single is also adventure. To love your own company, to delve into the self since all the time you have is spent in understanding and exploring your own passions and callings. So, I want to ask! What is your dream!? What is your fire? What are you burning your gut in? Do you wanna be an author, or do you want to start a nursery, would you like to protect stray dogs, or do you want to work to make life easier for other people? You have all the time sweets!
I love being single, because I love the feeling of loving being single. Meaning, I do not need to rush, worry about a ticking biological clock, have an urgency to go out, have any desire to date, or feel pressured to partner up, look pretty, worry, fight, make up, break up — because I am happy now, and I have got a mission. And the Love I need is nestled in my heart for good.