I am a proud Mumbaiite, Navi Mumbaiite now,
but it's the same thing. Once you have spent the major part of your life
growing in Mumbai, you are always a Mumbaiite, right?
As a kid, Delhi
was my summer vacation destination with most of my maternal relatives and
cousins staying in the capital city. And when we were in school, at least once
during our Delhi stay the Mumbai vs Delhi argument would come up. I and my
brother used to defend Mumbai (then Bombay) like how!
"It's the best city in the world. No
other place is like Bombay."
"Delhi is so hot."
"We have the beaches."
"All filmstars stay here."
"We get tasty Vada Pav in
Bombay."
"We have so many local trains."
We were innocent
nerdy kids back then and the above points were all that we needed to win a 5-minute
city discussion as a child. And then, next year we would be all excited to
visit Delhi for Appu Ghar, Red Fort, Lotus Temple, Birla Mandir, Aloo Chaat,
Iced Golgappe, Shopping, Movies, lots of Ice Cream and more importantly total
fun times with cousins!
Things changed as we grew up. I remember
the Chandni Chowk market area which we sisters used to visit when we were in
college. Yes, it used to be crowded like our popular markets, yet some or the
other guy would always misbehave in broad daylight. I can never forget that
disgusted feeling that reduced my shopping and chaat trips in Old Delhi. Back
here in Mumbai, back then, going to the markets alone was safe even late at
nights. We did not know the term molestation. At least, I did not know. The
arguments changed and were not opposed by our sweet Delhi cousins. After all,
we weren't allowed, nor did we want to stroll alone on the Old Delhi streets.
"Delhi is so bad for girls. In Bombay,
we can roam alone."
"See, we can't trust people using
public transport here."
And also, "Our autorickshaws run by
meter and never refuse to ferry us anywhere we want."
It was a harsh reality. Who knew, Mumbai
would face similar things in the years to come?
A lot has changed in the recent years. The
condition here in Mumbai too has worsened. Molestation and rape cases are all
over the news. We are fighting to have policemen in our ladies compartments. We
need mobile apps to ensure we reach home safe while travelling late. Pepper
spray is a common necessity for girls travelling alone. It's sad.
There comes a point when boundaries don't
matter, cities don't matter. The innocent argument of Delhi vs Mumbai does not
matter. Delhi has all that Mumbai has and vice versa. But, women don't feel
safe in both cities. As we grew up, this argument never happened once. The
common discussion that happens is, "What's happening to the people of this
country? Why are some people so inhuman, so disgusting? When will women of this
country feel safe?"
And I can only hope, as we all are working
together to make it a better country, that things improve, people improve,
women feel safe, and this new discussion becomes redundant too. Will it?
Anuradha
Just as I got in the mood of the cultures of the two cities, the theme switched to something bigger and bolder! SPECTACULAR!
ReplyDeleteHey thanks Yashluv. Well, such are the times.
DeleteIt has been ages since I have visited Mumbai and New Delhi. But my impression is New Delhi is a "sleepy" town and Mumbai is a very lively city, just like Chennai. They may have changed now. I can get hot breakfast at 5 AM in Chennai. In New Delhi, the chaiwala opens his dhookan only after 10 am. They may have changed now. If so, I stand corrected.
ReplyDeleteI agree with that about Mumbai and Delhi. Everyone I know there is home by 8. But in a way, it's good as they get time for themselves.
DeleteCorrection:
ReplyDelete"See, we can't trust people using public transport here."
I meant:
"See, we can't trust public transport here."
Delhi has it's own charm, I don't know why it fascinates me more than Mumbai, hope i live there someday, i had wished to live in Kolkata and it got granted and How!
ReplyDeletehelloooooooooooo.. how are you doing .. long time ... remember me ....
ReplyDeleteI have been away from india a long time now so to me BOTH are home .. and I have some beauituful friends in both places .
Bikram
very nice article womens's Health and fitness magazine
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